The Etymology of Culture: Kuwait and a Toddler

 A woman in an abaya walks down the beach away from a little boy in Kuwait City, Kuwait, Middle East.

We are on the plane from Dubai to Kuwait International Airport and I am feeling unfortunately colonialist in my white linen shirt, functional travel pants and baby carrier around my waist. I’m not far off from a co-opted version of Willie Scott in Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom.

The remaining few women on our flight are dressed in full abaya, or veiled, or both. Superficially, the only common denominator between us is we are all chasing our kids around the plane (kids tend to be the best common denominator when traveling).

Yet I tend to side with Deepak Chopra when he says: "Travel brings you the profound insight that as different as appearances, tastes, dresses, music, and cultures may be across the globe, people are the same.” It’s a cliché, but is one of the most treasured pieces of wisdom I have gathered, especially while traveling through the Middle East.

 Overlook of Kuwait City buildings, Kuwait, UAE, Middle East.
 A little girl toddler walks by a friendly man in the Friday Market Souq, Kuwait, Persian Guld, Middle East, Asia.

We are headed to Kuwait for a short stopover on our way back to Germany, to visit our friends who have relocated here for work.

As we wait for our rental car at the airport, a Saudi man dressed in an immaculate white dishdasha bends down, scoops our daughter into his arms and buries his mustachioed face into her neck. Wow, he's really going for it, I thought, bracing for her usual protest against all men with moustaches. But she squeals delightedly, points her finger at him and said, 'Dadda!'"

I shrug and smiled. "It's her only word," I said.

What a usual protest looks like.

What a usual protest looks like.

 Kuwaiti man in dishdasha looking at phone in downtown Kuwait, UAE, Middle East.
 The backy courtyard of the Grand Mosque in Kuwait City, Kuwait, UAE, Middle East.

For Americans, the last time Kuwait entered the cultural lexicon was 25 years ago during the Persian Gulf War. I remember watching as a pre-teen Saddam Hussein’s literal scorched earth policy on cable TV, the country’s oil fields afire, every radio station playing Lee Greenwood’s “God Bless the USA”.

Since then, this major non-NATO ally of the U.S. has been going through a significant rebrand. With the world’s sixth largest oil reserve, the Kuwaiti dinar has the highest valued currency, its neighbors UAE and Qatar are among the safest countries in the world.

 Fishermen work on a boat at the Fish Market, Kuwait, UAE, Middle East
 A family sits together in a cafe in Al Shaheed Park, Kuwait, UAE, Middle East

But traveling to the Middle East, no matter how cosmopolitan, is to fully embrace the etymology of culture. Despite its moniker of being a Gulf region trendsetter, Kuwait recently had books from George Orwell to the “Little Mermaid” banned by an increasingly conservative bloc in parliament. It’s one of the few countries in the region that allow public protests, although strictly controlled.

There are other cultural differences to note, in line with the ethos of Islam. Men are allowed up to four wives. Alcohol is forbidden. In mosques, prayer areas are segregated by male and female.

Yet here exists the paradox of a modernized country ruled by Sharia law: shimmering skyscrapers, stretches of city beaches and Le Pain Quotidien call forth lazy memories of my native Southern California, except here, women in burqas, not bikinis, relax under beach umbrellas.
 Women sit in burqas under an umbrella on the beach in Kuwait City, UAE, Middle East.
 A toddler climbs on a couch in the Grand Mosque surrounded by tiles, Kuwait, UAE, Middle East.
 A smiling fisherman sells fish in the Kuwait market, Persian Gulf, Middle East.

We spend our short few short days driving around the city and I quiz my friends about life here as an expat. A whopping 70% of the population are from abroad: Bangladesh, Pakistan, the Philippines, Egypt. Most upper management jobs are held by Europeans and North Americans. They make due with the heat, but try to leave in the summertime when it reaches a cool 120°F.

So we do the expat thing. The Grand Mosque is an Andalusian masterpiece fitting 10,000 people but more importantly for us, a giant romper room for toddlers. The fish market, always the pulse of a city, is packed.

We drink a heart-stopping Turkish coffee at Al Shaheed Park and get kicked out of the Opera House. Nobody mentions politics and the brewing Islamophobia around the world, and for a few days, I don't think about it, either.

We get a taste of the country's Achilles heel: they are speed demons. Perhaps it is the lack of alcohol or their devout observance of faith, but you haven’t truly lived till you've peeled rubber on Al Corniche against an Escalade of burqa-clad moms, frappuccinos in hand. (For those who were wondering, they were faster.)

But my favorite stop was the city Souq at sunset, just as families were venturing out for an early meal. Sia flitted from stall to stall, jewelry hawkers making bird calls with their hands to win her attention

 Downtown Kuwait buildings, UAE, Middle East.
 A girl carries a toddler through Kuwait Market, UAE, Middle East.
The connection between people — you can’t sever it, but you can forget it. So to find moments of collective joy... and to lean into those, with strangers, reminds us that there’s something bigger.
— Social researcher & writer Brené Brown, 'On Being' Podcast
 Kuwaiti man in dishdasha in Kuwait's Friday Market Haraj Souq, Kuwait City, UAE, Middle East.
 A woman walks through Kuwait market souq Haraj, UAE, Middle East.
Mom & Baby in Kuwait Souq
 Kuwaiti men in the Friday market souq, Kuwait, Persian Gulf, Middle East.
 A toddler walks through Kuwait Market food court area, UAE, Middle East.
 Local bread and cheese dish, Kuwait, Persian Gulf, Middle East

This is why we travel to countries which our fundamentally different than our own. To challenge the status quo and offer an alternative to the limited information about a place. When the rhetorical veils and ideologies are lifted, we find we really are not that different from one another, white linen shirt, abaya, or not.

Sia pointed at young father up ahead of us in the souq. “Dadda!” she cried out again and toddled off behind him and his brood, wanting to join them, even if for only a temporary moment.